“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change”
“‘He abused me, she struck me, he overpowered me, she robbed me.’
Those who harbor such thoughts do not still their hatred.
‘He abused me, she struck me, he overpowered me, she robbed me.’
Those who do not harbor such thoughts still their hatred.”
from the Dhammapada
Yet we keep saying it, don’t we dears? Complainin’ about what this or that one said or did to us.
And the Buddha tells us it is so counter-productive – we just feel worse when we think that way.
But when we do not think that way – when we offer loving-kindnes towards those who speak
ill of us, or harm us in some way, our own happiness grows. Amazing!
Karma Sherab Drolma
A great reminder, at a great time for everyone.
The Noble Eightfold Path
1. Right View
2. Right Intention
3. Right Speech
4. Right Action
5. Right Livelihood
6. Right Effort
7. Right Mindfulness
8. Right Concentration
“When you become a Buddhist, it seems that the problem of personal shortcomings is difficult to deal with and this perhaps can be discouraging. How then does a person deal with what he knows to be his own imperfections and shortcomings so that he will not be discouraged?” ~Question
“One has to understand the nature of these shortcomings and limitations. Once we realize that our habitual patterns have caused us problems and we have started on a path, we begin to understand the need to transform these patterns.
In Buddhism, we talk of different methods and different techniques that one could use in cutting through neurotic patterns and our shortcomings. Once you are able to apply these methods and teachings, you are able to understand the importance of their application and sense the benefits, one has no doubt about it. Once you have experienced the benefits you can change your patterns for good.”
Even hair is not permanent…
- The truth of suffering (dukkha)
- The truth of the cause of suffering (samudaya)
- The truth of the end of suffering (nirhodha)
- The truth of the path that frees us from suffering (magga)